Every year in the beginning of summer, I go through my four email accounts and sort through my inboxes with all the unread newsletters and other communication. I have various email accounts for various purposes, but some things might overlap. When I sat with this over the weekend, I realized that each email was like an item on my To Do-list. An item to handle and choose what to do with. Can and do we want to directly? Not always.

In the beginning when I started writing newsletters for my coaching business in 2002, it was common to only send one out, once a week, or even once a month. This way, it became something to look forward to (and mine became the foundation for my books) and even to plan accordingly with any events. Nowadays, a well meaning organization can send once a day, which creates a multitude in need of reading, deciding and responding (such as booking, planning, ordering, sorting, following up, reading more later etc), which in my case most likely simply piles up and results in nothing. The many becomes too many to handle directly, since I often open my email app to either check something specific or send one myself, unrelated to what in my inbox. What’s in my inbox, has to be taken care of afterwards, or at another time, creating frustration, interruption, and distraction, ie more stress. So, I put mine in designated folders to be taken care of later, would I find the time, access to more wifi, and place. What’s important to remember is to take charge of our time and keep our focus, or else we will do nothing but respond to others. Rather, we must create!

Do you have a good system for your emails, and do you subscribe to more than you read?

Some people say there’s a reason for everything and refer to God’s plan. Others say we can’t always get answers to our questions while they console “why me” feelings. I say there’s a human reason for everything and we just need to recall how a conflict started and dare to look into what caused it, taking both sides into account. If you can change the cause, you can change the outcome.

For example, while it’s devastating to see casualties of war anywhere, presently increasing in Gaza, it’s seems easier to blame the retaliating party, in this case Israel, than to remember that there is still hostages held in Gaza. If this is the reason, why doesn’t the people there themselves demand Hamas to release them? Then there would be no reason for Israel to continue their attacks, would there?

Another example I learned while I was a detained immigrant in Honolulu 2011-12, is that people tend to commit crimes for any of two solid reasons:

1. Because they’re bored
2. Because they’ve been victims themselves (Only hurt people hurt others.)

What is then the antidote but to tend to these needs and solve any underlying issues, such as conflicts, lack of income, and providing a meaningful job, sports and/or a creative outlet. When you start applying this perspective of needs on everything in society, you’ll soon see what I mean, whether it’s hunger and lack of sleep, or not feeling seen, heard and respected, behind someone else’s and your own communication and actions. Advertising builds on this notion obviously, but it doesn’t make people’s needs less real.

What do you need and how can you meet it? Which behavior needs to change?

A friend and spiritual teacher in Honolulu, once told me in 2011 to always trust in my inner knowing: When you know, you know, it’s in your bones, she said. With this Jocelyn referred to how knowledge can be forwarded through generations, through our mana, the energy found in our teeth, bones and hair, besides places. And mana holds power. But is our intuition the same as our inner knowing?

Intuition is information, such as someone’s set forth intention energy, that we can feel a response to. For example, I can feel in my body, in my stomach, when the sun is setting, even if I’m in the kitchen with a window facing the opposite direction. That is my instincts and intuition.

Inner knowing to me, is a synthesized understanding of how things relate, which choices and decisions are good for me, as they feel like an uplifting reassurance. The more I dare to trust in myself, what I feel in my heart and God’s guidance, the calmer and more grounded I feel. This is a learning process we all have access to and can practice. We just need to dare to trust more in ourselves than others.

What are some truths based on your education and experiences? Holding onto and living according to these values, is to live in pono; in love and integrity, to live in alignment.

Have you ever felt uncomfortable around certain people, but totally at ease with others? This feeling arises when we try to fit in and belong. When we naturally do, it’s an opportune time to recognize which personality traits we let surface, that shows who we are. Eventually, we can fasten them and make them part of our identity, if we feel allowed and encouraged. A good way to discover your true you, is through travel and comparing your behavior in various local and organizational cultures. For example, who am I regardless of whether I’m studying, working, or even locked up? Whether I’m in Sweden, or in the United States?

I’m talkative, creative, and organized. If I’m not, it means I’m either not feeling well or being oppressed (by government officials or authorities) or bullied (by any individual known or unknown to me).

Which three personality traits do you carry with you regardless of your circumstances?

When and where can you not fully embody and express these? Why? And where can you feel safe and relaxed to be the true you? Which kind of environment do you need in order to thrive?

To be able to relate and communicate better, it can be a great help to recognize our three selves through which we understand ourselves, others and the world. We also have three levels of consciousness, that we can access and sometimes enter by choice through meditation.

The three selves are:

Parent-self: Acting, relating and communicating with others from the perspective of a parent. This cam be anything from overbearing or condescending, to caring and understanding. Through the parent-self, we seek our Higher self, or higher consciousness, that can help elevate our perspective and guide our actions from a more detached point of view.

Adult-self: From this level, we’re responsible and solution oriented, fluctuating from being guarded to being open. This can also be referred to as our Middle self, which is our normal day-to-day presence.

Child-self: This is our inner child, the spirit we had when we grew up, pure, exploring, and filled with love, joy, and wonder. Through this level, we’re creative and playful, but can also be seen as the Lower self, or the subconscious, where we have stored traumas and adjoining emotions and beliefs, that can govern us, until we face them.

When people get stuck in relationship patterns, it often means that they’ve got stuck in a role of parent or child, with their significant other, where they relive the same overbearing, or condescending, for example. While someone in a parental role might seemingly fit with someone in a child role, it’s not good if neither is aware to consciously heal these patterns. The best outcome, is when we’ve learned to integrate and shift each self within, and use appropriately in the moment.

References: Urban Shamanism by Serge Kahili King, and Transaction Analysis by Eric Burne.

I’ve been thinking of how to reconcile my Christian faith, with the view on the natural elements that are founded in Chinese Medicine and Shamanism, to be able to incorporate them as a way to create a balance and a theme for the classes and practices to be offered at Telluselle Living Center. Yesterday, I found the answer, as I bought an old book at a church sale from 1941, with translations of Saint Francis of Assisi’s original texts – the very Saint Francis whom the city San Francisco was named after. While I just started reading, I found the first written down poem from 1225 that fits exactly. I cite it here:

The Canticle of the Sun

Most High, all-powerful, good Lord, Yours are the praises, the glory, the honor, and all blessings. To You alone, Most High, do they belong, and no man is worthy to mention Your name.

Praised be You, my Lord, with all your creatures; especially Brother Sun, who is the day, and through whom You give us light. And he is beautiful and radiant with great splendor, and bears a likeness to You, most High One.

Praised be You, my Lord, through Sister Moon and the stars; in heaven You formed them clear and precious and beautiful.

Praised be You, my Lord, through Brother Wind, and through the air, cloudy and serene, and every kind of weather through which You give sustenance to Your creatures.

Praised be You, my Lord, through Sister Water, which is very useful and humble and precious and chaste.

Praised be You, my Lord, through Brother Fire, through whom You light the night; and he is beautiful and playful and robust and strong.

Praised be You, my Lord, through Sister Mother Earth, who sustains us and governs us and who produces varied fruits with colored flowers and herbs.

Praised be You, my Lord, through those who give pardon for Your love, and bear infirmity and tribulation. Blessed are those who endure in peace for by You, Most High, they shall be crowned.

Praised be You, my Lord, through our Sister Bodily Death, from whom no living man can escape. Woe to those who die in mortal sin. Blessed are those whom death will find in Your most holy will, for the second death shall do them no harm.

Praise and bless my Lord, and give Him thanks, and serve Him with great humility.

Amen.

So, through this poem we learn to honor God through the elements of His creation, but not to worship them single handedly.

We’re all part of One.

The other day, I came across a woman named Emma Marshall on Instagram, who recently has published a thesis about how dance is medicine, also with rave. When I did yoga in the beginning of 2000’s and studied at Malmö University, I wasn’t taking any dance classes, but often was out clubbing, and realized this through my own experience as well, since I rarely even drink and never do drugs, but can get high on the dancing itself. This in turn led me to begin with WestAfrican dance in 2004, whereupon I was introduced to Hawaiian Hula in 2005, and then reconnecting with regular dance classes in Jazz and Modern in 2006 and onward. Here you can take part of Emma’s story on Ted, with which I truly can relate:

And you can find more about Emma on her webpage here.

This revelation about the benefits and similarities to shamanic practices with rave and clubbing, is also the foundation of Ecstatic dancing, and why I think it’s important to also offer at Telluselle Living Center, as an alternative to choreographically led classes.

By moving our bodies, we free our minds and release stress.

A couple of days ago, I had planned on participating in a webinar about AI in coaching, through Zoom, when I found myself running late and in need to eat. I decided to eat in front of my computer in the kitchen, with the camera off meanwhile, and then resume, which I did. But, I became so stressed!

Many years ago, I used to eat in front of the TV, sometimes. I’m pretty sure, many others do too (or the phone). However, I stopped doing so, to not have to ingest, and digest, anything else but the food, as well as practicing being more present. And, I’m so glad I have. The stress of doing two things at once, having your attention on two different things at the same time, is completely un-necessary to provoke ourselves. It’s one thing, that life may produce those moments, but we for sure don’t need to seek them. This also made me realize how much more calm and at peace I am nowadays. Something I’d never would want to trade. I’m also much more focused and efficient (when I’m not being stalked).

We seldom know how stressed we are, until we no longer are. How is your level? What can you do to make it less?

I’ve made a new vision board! It’s been almost ten years ago, since I made my last one, but a couple of nights ago, I felt this inspiration coming back and decided to make one directly on my computer, all digital. Normally in life coaching, vision boards are made of cuttings from various magazines and papers that you assemble into a collage, with the added variable of becoming a journey of discovery, so that you can see what you’re being drawn to and need in your life. However, if you feel sure about what you like having, and would like to have, you can do it this way too. I did mine in Powerpoint and it took about three hours. You can also collect clippings, or images, for a while first.

In the middle, place a photo of you. Then, simply gather photos that you already have, or gently download those things that you either want literally, or that symbolize what you want. You can then add various words that are important to you. This now becomes a visualization – a vision – of what you are going to attract and manifest. Look at it regularly, to remind you, and help you keep focused on your goals. Then leave it, from time to time, and later see what you actually did attract into your life! You’ll be amazed!

I’ve written a little book about creativity, where I share my experiences and tips on how to become more creative. Here is the description:

What is the new Creator Economy and how can you be part of it? Copywriter and Lifecoach Hannah Telluselle, takes you through the basics in A book about Creativity. Here you’ll learn what defines true creativity, whether it’s art, an invention, or an innovative method. She shares tips about how to make up ideas, which type of professions you can seek, and guides you through the creative process with coaching questions. All this enables you to become self-actualized and a co-creator of the world, where you can express your authentic self, reduce anxiety, and serve others, whether as a pastime passion or a full-time job. As a reward, you’ll feel happy and fulfilled, as an honest participant of progress in society.

If you’d like to buy it, you can find it on Amazon and Kindle here.

In the mid-90’s, I had a boss named Gert-Allan Persson at the advertising agency Södergården, I worked at as an employee and later for as a freelancer. He taught me the importance of having an employee manual made, also for small businesses, and the importance of budget transparency. Every week, we started off with a meeting to delegate and follow up our campaign plans and projects, as well as the finances of the firm. How much we had been able to invoice, how much our salaries cost, and thus how many hours we needed to have completed with actual client work, to make it even. Then, we also received a small bonus, when we exceeded this. In this way, it became clear how a business is run and how my part as an employee plays in. This is something I’ve carried with me since then, as a positive example to forward and use.

At Telluselle Living Center, it therefor is necessary to be transparent with the income and the costs, so that each instructor, teacher or coach, can see for themselves what their contribution is. For example, the cost of the house can be budgeted with anything from property tax, maintenance and mortgages (unless I can find an investor or two…), to insurance and utilities. This cost is set per month, regardless. To meet this cost, it’s then easy to count how many visitors need to show up and pay for each class, and how many classes. Anything above this, and salary taxes and marketing, will be what becomes the profit for each instructor (teacher or coach), with some to me. My hope is, that this kind of transparency and model, both becomes grounded in real facts, as well as encourages leadership and responsibility for each contributor. If owned together, it will be equally divided as a co-op. The question is, whether this should be a for profit, or a non-profit, organization.

How is it for you where you work? How much business, knowledge and collaborative effort are you contributing with? Are you paid accordingly and equally?