Sensing the silk

Like a butterfly’s fluttering wings, the silk touches my skin with an airy quality of both lightness and softness. I become like the butterfly, when I wear it, letting it enchant me across the floor, as I dance Isadora Duncan. This wonderful woman who could portray both the raw wrath from the underworld, devastating grief and hardship, as well as the light of angels and dewy grass. I like to be reminded that I can do the same, with her lead.

Expressing my femininity. And my soul.

How often should we practice?

A key to become successful with a set intention to practice regularly, whether it’s dancing, yoga, going for a run, qigong, meditation or working out at a gym, is by seeing it as a need. You want to feel it become a need, and thus it will become much more easy to perform, instead of just deciding to, and perhaps failing, with your practice. You can also look at it as eating – something we need every day, and like to vary.

When I started lifting weights at a gym, together with starting to do yoga, in 2000, I learned from the fitness trainers and gym director, that the optimum physical training, is to do the same thing, every third day. This is to allow your muscles to “break” a little, then recover and rebuild with proper rest.

A good way, I have found, is to set an hour every day that is “me-time”, but let it become what is most needed, or desired, that specific day. It can be to read an interesting book, it can be to practice dance, yoga or qigong, or to journal. All depending on my shape of the day. This way, it becomes both scheduled and performed, as well as not mundane.

For it to work with a pre-set day and time, it’s crucial that the outcome matches, or supersedes, your desired outcome. You need to feel it. What kind of feeling is it that you long for and actually experience by your practice? Peace and relaxation? Becoming energized and clear minded? I, for example, become a happier person, when I dance, so naturally it’s easy for me to schedule, as well as actually do, in comparison to tasks I dread.

Find what gives you joy!

Photo of my planner from Paperblanks.

Detoxing through our feet

For many years, I have known and experienced that my feet are just as much of an energy outlet as my hands. I like walking barefoot on wooden floors, besides outside when the weather permits, because it grounds me. I have also felt how standing in the ocean can pull out unwanted energies. Then there is of course Reflexology, which perhaps is why walking in a pair of Birkenstock sandals feels so good.

This is why, I now have decided to try Japanese Nuubu’s detoxing foot pads, after knowing about them for a long time. They do work! Just put one on each of your soles and go to sleep! Through an herbal mix with ingredients like bamboo vinegar and tourmaline, our sweat glands become activated and thus release toxins. The pads did become black after my first night with them, which I believe is from environmental residues. According to Chinese Medicine, our skin is our body’s third lung.

So, whether it’s to relieve yourself from extensive walking by resting your feet on a chair while you lay on the floor, or giving yourself a pedicure, don’t forget to workout and tend to your feet this summer! And let yourself become cleansed. You can find more about Nubuu here.

Breathing in a square

There are certainly many ways to meditate with guidance, yet it still is in the practice you really are taught. Use your own experiences to guide you. Are these something you want more of or less? How does it feel for you?

The main goal for all meditation, is to calm our mind and find peace within, that we can carry out into the world to create a peaceful environment, and ultimately contribute to peace on earth. It’s possible!

One way to reach to this place in your meditation, is through breathing in a square. Start by sitting down and let your hands rest on your knees, palms facing up to let energy enter you. If you would like to add a Qigong twist on it, you can alter your hands facing downwards when you exhale, thus letting go of energy, and upwards when you inhale. Now, count while you are inhaling, such as to four perhaps. Use the same tempo for your counting while you pause, holding your breath for four counts. Exhale and count to four. Then pause again, and count to four. Then inhale, counting to four again, and so forth.

In the space between the exhale and the inhale, is where you can find stillness.

Hot tips!

Feeling hot? Even Sweden, where I am at, is having a major heatwave this week, so I thought I’d share some of my best tips to keep cool, based on my experience of living in Hawaii, and growing up with my traveling parents.

  • Keep your windows closed during the day and only open them early morning or late evening. Just like you don’t want it to become cold in the midst of winter, you don’t want the heat to enter either.
  • Drink your tea! Drinking something hot enables your body to naturally start cooling down, just as the opposite is true – believe it or not, drinking ice-cold drinks shocks your entire system, that instead will try to warm up!
  • Rinse your neck, wrists and ankles in cold water for a quick relief.
  • Add some salt to your food such as crackers or chips, and refill yourself with small sips of water continuously throughout the day. And don’t forget your electrolytes.

Enjoy!

Balancing the natural elements

During my journey to heal, I’ve found it paramount to really go by my own experience first, rather than just trying to follow a theory. Instead, I’ve wanted to explore and discover my own experiences and later find either my own explanations or others’, who also have walked the same path as I have. The latest contribution to my understanding is Karla McLaren’s book “The Language of Emotions”. I came across it, while I was detained in Honolulu on an immigration violation 2011-12, but never got to read all of it, so I am finally doing this now. Most resonates with me deeply, such as seeing our emotions as fluid and responding to movement, and how the natural elements can be understood as aspects within, that also other traditions, such as Hawaiian, Native American and Chinese Medicine, do. The question for me has been to feel which element represents which aspect within and to synthesize this. Of course, they all intertwine too, but still, sometimes it’s nice to get a clear view on life, with the help of both metaphors and mystique.

McLaren explains the natural elements in comparison to our different realms like this:

Earth – Our physical world, body and needs of rest, nutrition and exercise

Air – Our mental and intellectual world, in need of study and ponder

Fire – Our visionary and spiritual world, where we need to dream, meditate and be by the sea

Water – Our emotional and artistic world, where we need things like poetry and dance by nature

Wood – Our integrated self, soul, ego and personality, who holds the knowledge of the other elements and these realms

In Chinese Medicine, McLaren’s definition of Air is referred to as Metal and in the African cosmology, Wood is Ether. The point is to use these to create a better balance, which is at the heart of my plan for Telluselle Living Center.

My own journey started with a perceived discrepancy between my intellect and my emotions, a gap between the level of expression, where I had undertaken the role of my Parental self most often in my relationships, starting at an early age through my parents’ divorce. Healing this gap, has been my primary focus the last decade, when I’ve become able to feel completely centred and present, in short glimpses,

Something that might differentiate my experience and understanding a bit differently, is that McLaren uses the words Ego, Self, Personality and Soul, as if they were synonyms, which I don’t think they are. To me, the ego is our shell, our social conditioned self in dialogue with others, while the soul is connected through spirit and sits in a deeper seat, that connects us with others on a plane mostly non-tangible.

The freedom we seek, is what we can give to ourselves, by choosing perspectives and incorporate these worlds. Can you feel these different realms and see how they show up in your life?

You can find more about Klara McLaren’s book here.

Practicing outside

While the best practising is done indoors, where we can be more safe, it can also be grounding to practice barefoot on the grass, or sand. This is also why the floor should be made of wood, to ensure a proper balance for the energy being transferred through the soles of our feet. But now that summer is here in Sweden, I practiced Qigong outside today.

This motion is part of a “7 minutes” routine by Lee Holden, that I’ve practiced a little off and on since 2015. This qigong enables me to work out my upper body and breathe better. Here I’m showing “Pet the tiger, embrace the mountains” with proper inhale and exhale. It is through this combination of breath and movement, we can move energy.

Have you tried it?

Finding the right conditions

War is certainly not the kind of conditions anyone wants, or where someone can thrive, so naturally people need to flee. This in turn changes both the conditions that were left, as well as the new that one enters. At least after some time has passed, and if many followed suit. But, we don’t only flee from war, sometimes we also need to flee because of famine and poverty.

Our society, ie our culture, environment and laws, is the conditions we live in. So what do we want to live in? This is also part of lifecoaching. We don’t only clarify your goals and how to achieve them together with you, but also let you become more assertive when it comes to finding the conditions you need. This has foremost to do where you want to live and why.

Other conditions can be referred to as terms, such as salary, working hours and type of industry. Each comes with its own culture and type of leadership. What would you prefer? Now, after the pandemic, perhaps you also have the option to work remote. But is that what you want?

And finally, to be able to blossom, we also need the kind of people around us that will support you and your endeavour, as well as challenge you to not loose yourself in your own envisioning. How are you going to succeed? This is what making plans are for. To help you lead your life and not just respond to others.

Would you like to try? Contact me for your first free coaching session!

Competing to learn

While we aren’t supposed to compare ourselves all the time to others, since we don’t really know what others’ lessons in life are about, or what they had to do first, we can still use others for a healthy dose of competition. By comparing, we can see if we’re meeting a standard, and most of all, what we need to improve.

The best progress always comes from within, when we take off our focus from winning or loosing, to learning. This applies both to our sports and arts, as well as in our regular life. Whatever happens to us, can be seen as a lesson to learn. By this, we foster a humble attitude, and can open ourselves up for new solutions. Solutions that might not have come forth, without the lesson.

And which lessons do we need to learn collectively as a society? What can we do in our own communities? Both online and in real life. This can be the base for further discussions at Telluselle Living Center.

The leaves and tree showing in the photos are oak, a tree of wisdom.

Dancing barefoot

What does Hawaiian Hula, West African dance and Isadora Duncan have in common? And why do I want to host these three disciplines at Telluselle Living Center?

First of all: The music. All three disciplines mainly use instrumental music, whether percussion or classic piano, and live. And the Hawaiian language, by its own logic, allow us to focus more on the melody, since we don’t speak Hawaiian. We might though!

Second: The themes. All three forms of dancing have nature in common, whether it’s to pay tribute to, or to share the history of a place. There is also a spiritual element.

And third: We dance barefoot, and we often perform outside.

Other types of dancing, like Modern or Jazzdance, derive from West African and Isadora Duncan, together with Classical ballet and Martha Graham, but are not going to be offered at TLC. However, for those interested in seeing dance as a form of healing, there will be Ecstatic dancing and 5rhythms to practice.

We’re one with Earth.

Photo shows an Isadora Duncan dance pose.

Creating a culture

Everything from how we dress, to how we communicate in a group, constitutes a culture. To create one for its members to feel a strong sense of community, fellowship and belonging, is a must and the primary tool for its leader, to create a successful organization. And often, we have both an informal leader and an employed. The informal leader is a person that the group tend to go to, while the employed leader is a manager or a director. The best result for the organization and its culture, is of course that there is harmony with both, or that there is no need for an informal leader.

At Telluselle Living Center, my thought is to employ, or assign, small business owners and leaders of various practices to operate under the same roof, with a joint strategy for marketing and sales, as well as shared rent, and profit! With so many teacher training courses nowadays, I assume that there are plenty of people who wants to teach. And as long as someone is following a path of lineage of the practice (Yoga, Qigong, Meditation, Hula, Isadora Duncan, WestAfrican, 5rhythms as well as Pranic healing and Lomimlomi), we will be good to go!

Are you interested to be part of this venture? Or to learn more about this plan? Contact me for more information.

Borders and boundaries

One of the cornerstones of Lifecoaching, is to clarify and communicate boundaries more consciously. We can think of a boundary to be very much like a border. Although we may strive for unity, it’s not consistent with human nature to just tag along. Rather enforcing our borders and boundaries, is a must for our survival. Animals have marked their territories for centuries, and so do humans. But, the question then arises, when we consider our groups as global, both culturally and online, where do we draw the line? And how much should we fight to protect these borders?

Start by centering yourself in a state of meditation. Then go through and feel your entire body. Become aware of your feet, hands, face, arms etc and think of how this is your first border, your primary space for your soul to dwell in.

After that, expand your awareness to encompass the room and the house you are in. Who do you let in and on what premises? It must even be why we use the same word, isn’t it? Which are your rules? Your values that these rest on?

Then, it’s time to embrace the world as your space, Mother Earth, and her population. Find your role in the eco-system. What do you contribute with to our food-chain? It’s by finding our identities here, we can grow a spiritual connection to Source, and thus experience oneness.

And finally, claim your outer space, your cyberspace. Where do you draw the lines there? Do you add strangers and let that be how you get to know new friends, or do you only add people you have met in person? Or that belong to the same church or other point of interest?

Most people are completely unaware of your thinking and feeling, which is why you must make this clear to your family, friends and co-workers. Alas, it’s time to communicate these boundaries and borders! You can state something on your profiles online, adjust your settings, and likewise apply this by deciding who to invite or not, just like the people you actually surround yourself with. If you aren’t in a group that makes you feel both comfortable, uplifted and encouraged, find a new! Both online, and in real life.

Don’t know where to begin? Schedule an appointment to be coached.

Photo from Belem, Portugal.

Dance as praise

Some people have said that it would be inappropriate for a Christian to dance, that it would be vulgar and like a savage, wearing a silk-tunic or a grass-skirt, I think it is neither. In fact, it says in the Bible that we should praise God with dancing (Psalms 150:4).

At Telluselle Living Center, we dance in a spiritual framework, as intended by the original choreographies and interpreted often as a dialogue.

Picture from the Angel Blessing cards by Kimberley Marooney.

Setting priorities

Ever since I started learning about, and practicing, Lifecoaching, both on myself, and later with clients, I have advocated making a list of priorities. This to ensure that we will get that life-balance we seek, and how. You simply choose 5 areas, and list them in order of importance. My list is:

  1. Health
  2. Work
  3. Home
  4. Love
  5. Social life

Whenever I’m about to make a decision that may have a great impact on my life, I check in with this list. Will my choice honor my health, so that it will enable me to feel better? Will it stop me from contributing my best to society, or enable? This all have its foundation, in how we build our relationships. While people who are ill, of course should feel love and have a social life even so, but if we found our relationships on the level where we feel a certain way, physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, it will become the foundation of our love and friendships. It would for example be all about a certain trauma, if that was what brought us together, rather than meeting when we feel filled with joy and good health. Thus, striving for optimum health becomes necessary, for all other areas to become balanced.

These are also our needs, that are in constant parallel waning or growing, depending on our lives. The important thing is, not to strive for a perfect pie chart, with a perfect amount of hours for each every day, but to see how it adds up as a whole and what might be missing and of benefit to increase or lessen, for more success.

Would you like to apply this on your own life? Book a session with a personal coach!

Honoring Mother Earth

I have previously shared that how we approach ourselves, others and nature is paramount in understanding how we can increase our care. I have always liked to think of my walks in nature, as a sacred practice, entering a forest as if it was a church. I compose myself, walk softly and slowly, breathing in the freedom of space. I have never tried to do this together with others here in Sweden, but have wondered if I could teach how. But my concern is, if the actual alone practice is needed to foster a strong, spiritual, connection to Mother Earth, that for me, began by horseback riding as a teen.

In Hawaii, however, I was blessed to be allowed to participate in gatherings and practices of Hula outdoors with a group of Hula students, both at the Ko’olau Range and at Kailua beach, as well as the moratorium of the royals. We chanted, danced and made an offering (food and flowers). One common chant goes something like this:

Basically, the Hawaiian chant “E Laka E“, is a call to the goddess of nature, that is aimed to prepare us and ask for permission to enter. It’s also said that we should leave the place nicer, than when we came. And to mind where we walk, since we can not know, who might be buried underneath.

How do you approach Mother Earth? Next time you go for a walk or take a drive along the coastline, allow yourself to be alone and in deep communion with these powers. It’s what true oneness is about.

Living authentically

To live a life led by joy, we must do our homework to face and deal with our own inner resistance and shadow. To experience joy, we must put all expectations aside, taking nothing for granted. And to meet life with the wonder of a child, with our own parental guidance harmoniously blended.

A good way to start, is to downscale and remove everything that you don’t need. Be daring. You need water, food, sleep, clothes, shelter and walks outside. And perhaps medicine to fight of attacks on your immune system. But that’s it. The world we live in, wants us to believe that we need so much more, scaring us if we don’t succumb to continuous acquisitions. What we really need is to live by truth.

Who are you? What do you believe in? What is important to you? Are you following your own advice or the exclamations, that you deliver to others? Have you ever listened to someone without saying what you think he, or she, should say or do? Instead of making her, or him, fit into the picture you would like to paint, really listen and accept that person as exactly, who they are. This is the same acceptance you can use on yourself. Notice how peaceful and relaxing you become, when you step into the presence of accepting.

To get clear on your own needs and priorities, your goals and actions, book an appointment with a certified lifecoach today. Let your spirit soar!

Feel free!

At Telluselle Living Center, my ambition is that our customers and teachers will feel free:

Free in your body to experiment with, and express, various dance-forms and other movement practices.

Free in your mind to discuss and share your own experiences, lessons and ideas.

Free in your spirit to believe in what you do and speak thereof.

And free in your heart to love whomever you choose.

Your pursuit of life, liberty and happiness. To improve your life, others’ and earth.

The need for beauty

A sunset or sunrise. A flower in its full splendor. A small seashell with a crack. Or a leaf, trembling with vulnerability as it shows us its veins. Fresh to its touch, and lush.

I think beauty is a need in itself. It’s a call to reconnect with Mother Earth by going outdoors. It’s a yearning to become showered by impressions of the ecstatic kind, by a beauty rendering one speechless, and never numb to the feel. It’s to revel in the symphony of colors and sounds, lights and scents, all becoming life. It’s a longing to be fed.

Go out and meet it!

Increase your creativity

Stuck in a rut? Scared to get out of your comfort zone, or perhaps you might even wonder what it is? Everything that we do regularly, becomes a daily routine and a habit. For us to experience an actual change in our lives, we must improve and change what we do, and how. Remaining the same, is considered being in your own comfort zone, where most of your friends and parents also prefer you to be, in order to fit you into their own patterns of behavior. It can, at times, be good to remain with what and how you are doing things to be safe, but to grow and evolve, we must change. Actually changing how you do things, will bring you onto the path of progress. Creativity is simply to do something different, to combine things you normally don’t, or to do something completely new. It can also be in terms of expressions (art, literature etc),

Here are some tips on how to increase your creativity:

  • Do it the opposite way. Do you normally take a shower before your brush your teeth in the morning? Try changing the order.
  • Walk/Drive a different route to your workplace or to where you pick up groceries.
  • Imagine and visualise how you want things to be. Describe it vividly in your journal.
  • Brainstorm ideas on your own, or together with a friend, or your coach.
  • Change perspective. Remember those exercises for the debate team? Try being con in issues that you normally are pro, or vice versa. (This one is also good to become more inclusive or to found a more firm belief and value.)
  • Make something – a cake, refurbish a piece of furniture, or write that piece of poetry you carry in your heart.
  • Figure out a solution to a problem

It’s my ambition to host creativity circles as part of the coaching department at Telluselle Living Center, with a focus on green innovation and improved health. Ready to share your ideas?

Live Aloha!

In Hawaii, there is a common thread in how you treat others and the land, that is called the Aloha-spirit. It permeates everyone, with its rich kindness and presence of good cheer. It derives from accepting that on an island, you must take deliberate measures to agree. That on an island, you can’t escape and we all have to depend on one another for our survival. Hence, the development of the Ho’oponopono practice – a Hawaiian forgiveness technique – and a culturally rooted kindness and care in the simple, yet profound, acknowledgement of the need to share.

Aloha means to joyfully share breath. To “Live Aloha” means to extend one’s care without selfish motives towards others. To be kind. And to enjoy the beauty of nature. This certainly is something we can all do, everywhere, not just in Hawaii. You can:

  • Help someone
  • Let someone pass before you in a line
  • Greet someone with a smile
  • Care to listen
  • Share a meal
  • Give a compliment
  • Ask for what another needs
  • Show respect
  • Recycle and reduce waste

Inspiration for other things you can do, can be found here.