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Setting a goal

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One of the cornerstones of lifecoaching, is to set a goal and then make a plan to reach it, checking off your actions as you go. Setting a goal, isn’t something lofty, but a very precise process, that has a couple of components that are important for it to work.

Here are seven things to consider, when you set a goal, with an example. A goal has to be:

Specific – define exactly what you’d like to achieve, such as: “I’d like to lose weight.”

Measurable – define how much, or any other factor that you can measure, such as: “I’d like to lose 10 lbs.”

Attainable and Reasonable – state something as your goal, that you know you actually can reach. Don’t opt for wanting to lose 30 lbs in one week. That isn’t attainable and reasonable.

Time-bound – set a deadline for when you’d like to have reached your goal, such as: “I’d like to lose 10 lbs before June.”

Action-oriented – include something about how you intend to reach your goal, such as: “I’d like to lose 10 lbs by going for longer walks, three times per week, before June.”

Purposeful – stating why you’d like to reach your goal is important to make it feel purposeful, such as: “I’d like to lose 10 lbs, so that I’ll feel better about myself, get in better shape, and look better.”

What is a goal you’d like to reach?

A coaching exercise to define a goal

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Sometimes reaching a goal can make us feel more unsatisfied than we start out, because what are we then now going to do and why? I felt like this, when I first became a copywriter. The year of study and practice was intense and I didn’t focus on what I was going to do after, only to get that diploma. At first, it made me feel happy and accomplished, but soon I realized I had reached a plateau. I had to set a new goal, that would become deciding my purpose. Once I got clear on that, it was smooth sailing for a while.

An example that most of us can relate to, is setting a goal to make a million dollars. What happens is, that we start deciding and counting in our head, what we would do with the money. But therethrough they already feel spent, and we need more. Was it then the million dollars we wanted, or was it what we wanted to buy for them?

What would you do with a million dollars? Let’s say, you would write a list stating things like: Buy a new car, invest in a home, go on a trip, and donate some to a charity.

Now, redefine these things to goals. Let’s say that you want a new car. If you don’t lock yourself to the outcome but instead explore how you could reach this goal, an interesting phenomena occurs: You start seeing a multitude of opportunities and begin to foster a mindset of abundance. You could for example start working at a car-dealer and get a discount, you could buy a lottery ticket, you could build your own, you could import one directly from another country cheaper, or you could inherit one. Or you could simply save a set amount every month, deducted from your salary.

The same technique applies to any goal you would like to reach. Let’s say you want to lose 30 lbs. Making that your goal, will have you stare at the scale and get a fluctuating mood just like your pounds. However, if you think of what you would like to achieve with that goal reached, you open up for more possibilities. Let’s say you want to wear a certain dress, or feel more confident. Then, that is what you should focus on. What can you then do to be able to wear that dress, or become more confident?

By ensuring that our goals are not the same as our means, they becomes easier to reach.

Turning your dream into reality

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How do we make our dreams come true and manifest our intentions? Here is a simple outline that you can follow:

  1. Write down a vision you have. Describe your dream or your wish.
  2. State your intention that you’d like to see this become real.
  3. Create goals.
  4. Make a plan for what to do.
  5. See to which resources you’ll need.
  6. Find support.
  7. Take action!

We start by dreaming big. What does your dreamlife look like? What is it that you’d like to accomplish and why? What is the feeling you’re seeking, through this dream? For example: financial independence, becoming popular, be creative, be productive, make a difference… You can also add why you think this is important (This will give you a sense of purpose.).

Then, we state our intention with a mission statement. Our intentions are like little seeds that we plant; a wish we would like see happening. You can simply finish this sentence: “I’d like to…”

To begin manifesting this dream, dilute it into goals. A goal is something that you know is attainable, affordable, possible and with a deadline, or time, for it to be done.

Now, it’s time to map it out with a plan. What is it that you need to do? Do you need more information? Learn something? Which contacts do you need? Is there someone you could meet with? Do you need any legal permits, licences or visas? Who are you going to work with? Who are going to find use for your goal? Where do you want this to take place?

Nothing can get done without money. It’s a cruel fact. So, how much do you need and for what? Do you have anything saved? Can you take a loan? Work extra? Find sponsors? Meet with investors? Do it together with someone else? Is there any equipment involved? Can you lease it instead of buying? A resource can also be your own actual ability, such as if your health permits, your location and your family status as well as your knowledge.

We all thrive better with support. If you know of someone who has done what you plan already; ask him or her for advice. He or she can be your mentor. You might also decide on which friends or co-workers you can tell this to and thus get their support and cheer. Perhaps, there is a group online or where you live, that can be helpful?

Finally, make a checklist of all the things you need to do. To call, to find, to apply, to read up on, to e-mail, to go and see, to measure, to count, to follow up and when by….

To make this process clearer with your own dreams, goals and wishes, as well as to build your own confidence, you can book a meeting with me as your lifecoach. I can coach you through Zoom, or in person, and also take on small groups. Contact me here to try!