According to Meyer-Briggs, the type of personality we have, affect how we interpret and interact in the world, and most of all can help us understand our needs, and our best way to handle stress. An introvert, receives energy and inspiration through alone time and introspection, while an extrovert prefers talking and being around others to process things and become more energized therethrough. There are 16 combinations of personality types according to their scale, that can create a foundation for self-improvement and more wellbeing both individually, at work and in teams. You can watch more here.

My ambition is, to get licensed to offer Meyer-Briggs personality tests, as part of my lifecoaching. Have you gotten one done through recruiting, or a human resource specialist, you’re welcome to bring these results too, as part of your discovery process and goal setting.

We will also discuss an aspect that I’ve found important to also consider, which is how the environment and culture you live in, may enable or disable your best self. If you’ve moved, or undergone some kind of crisis, it might have rocked you out of kilter, or changed your ways. The question then arises, whether you can realign yourself back into how you used to be, or adapt to the group and environment. Perhaps that is what needs to change? It’s all about finding what motivates you, and enabling you to blossom.

Here is more about the MBTI-tests.

There is a lot of hype around the development of AI. Everybody wants to jump on the train, to not miss out. But what are we going to use it for, and what will be the result of that? Which needs does it satisfy? Or are they even unknown, until further development can emerge out of the current?’

I’ve encountered posts about replacing both copywriters and coaches with Chat GPT, which feels devastating, since the developers likely lack the expertise of, so the programming will be set to much lesser quality, which will trick users into believing that is how it’s supposed to be. When it isn’t. An example is asking a language model to create a slogan for a travel agency, and get something in response that is both cliché and too common, instead of getting something tailored to the specific travel agency, stating their specialty, which is what an actual copywriter would do.

Likewise, getting help to choose which degree to pursue, could become too narrow, if the person asking, isn’t receiving a coach’s keen understanding of underlying wishes from the parents, reading his/her bodylanguage, and discussing the emotions around choosing that specific degree. How much money could then become lost, if that person quits college and becomes totally miserable? Or, on the other side of the spectrum, what if it’s exactly what that person is looking for and wants, but lacks funds to. How would Chat GPT solve that? And who is going to pay unemployment, if AI makes more people unemployed?

Everything in a coaching session, is built on the client’s response, which we listen to with presence and compassion, while still challenging and providing additional perspectives to assist a sense of empowerment and clarity, to make better decisions. The whole world, seems to look for answers online, instead of meeting others and create them themselves.

However, AI to me, would be great as a tool for editing, for making creative techniques possible otherwise not, making it into its own genre. It could also become a database with a multitude of questions in various fields, to come in handy for professional coaches, rather than for clients. And perhaps, like calculators, solve complex equations of information, and summarizing that. As with everything, it becomes what we make it out to be. The important thing to consider, is to involve people from all walks of life, and countries, to ensure its quality, with a welcomed and respected feedback.

Everything a human can do, a human should.

What is your opinion?

When I hiked on lava, on Big Island of Hawai’i, 20 years ago, I witnessed both magma going into the ocean, creating enormous amounts of steam, as well as passed by holes in the ground, called steam vents, where their heat blew upwards. That made me wonder, whether this could be harnessed and used as an energy source, just like with solar, wind and water power. Can it?

To live more eco-friendly, I think the smartest way to enforce this more in society, is not by creating more fines and bans, but to simply offer better, cheaper, and more healthy alternatives. And, it’s up to us as a collective whole to create these alternatives.

Some great examples, I’ve seen online through the Instagram account @sambentley is making yarn out of agricultural waste, using algae to substitute plastic, and alternative ways of building small homes.

An other great source of innovative inspiration, is the Earthshot prize website, that you can find here. Or what do you say about live seawalls to help against rising water levels and ways to clean industrial waste water?

We shouldn’t forget the progress we’ve already made too, such as making plastic bags out of corn and using fabric ones instead, recycled paper, and biologically produced hair and skincare products. Little things, that still can have a great impact.

What could you dream up together with others?

Man has observed nature as long as we’ve existed on this planet. From the beginning, many of the weather phenomena, such as thunder and lighting, or even lava eruptions, have been attributed to gods, goddesses, and semi-gods, told about through myths and legends. Through generations, nature continue to inspire our practices, where we name many of the motions after animals, trees, ocean and wind, whether Qigong, Yoga or Dances like Hawaiian Hula and Isadora Duncan. Here is one motion that I see a resemblance between the two styles, called “Moving the clouds”.

While we all depict nature in art and metaphors, in awe of its powers, some religious practices aim to interact with them too. This is however, not the case for any of the dances.

You can watch the video snippets of the motion here.

Now that fall started and most of us have returned to school or work, it’s an opportune time to evaluate our jobs. Not only will it put you in a better position to negotiate, but it will also enable you to become clear about your own job-satisfaction. Here are some things to consider:

Salary – How are you being paid? What are the extras such as insurances or bonuses? Subsidised childcare or membership at a gym?

Description – What are your tasks and hours? Who are you communicating with? Do you have direct contact with customers? Do you need to report to someone regularly? How is this working?

Co-workers and camaraderie – Can you feel a sense of camaraderie among the people you work with? Can you speak freely about your job with others there? Do you help each other?

Future advancement – Do you feel that this job is teaching you something? Is it something you feel proud of, and think of using as a step towards any other career goals? Which other skills do you need to improve?

Personal preferences – Are your job something you look forward to in the morning? Do you feel purposeful and curious? Is there room to add your suggestions? Do you feel that you are contributing to the whole? Is the organization aligned with your own values?

To help you discuss these questions, tailored to your specific situation and dreams, I can coach you through a series of conversation sessions, either in person or online through Zoom. Contact me to book your first appointment – the first one is for free!

Traditional Hawaiian Hula schools, called Halaus, often begin their classes with a chant, that we enter the room with. This enables a collecting of oneself and focus, while setting the stage literally for a good practice. Chants varies from Halau to Halau, but are often a dedication to Goddess Laka, the patron of Hula and vegetation. Here is my chanting:

How do you enter different spaces? Your home? Your office? Others’? Nature? Classrooms? Taking a moment, similar to entering a church, set ourselves in the right frame of mind and heart, with humility.

What is the difference between stress-recovery and self-care? According to my own experience, stress-recovery is necessary to simply regain a sense of bearing, productivity, relating and peace, after having had to endure various hardships, conflicts or traumas. It can be to sleep and rest, but it can also be restful activities, such as going for a walk, putter around the house with chores, practice qigong, or letting emotions out, by ourselves, with a friend or partner, or with a licensed therapist.

Self-care is more about rewarding oneself with something like a spa-treatment, new hairdo or indulge in a long bath and a good meal, to refill our cup in a pro-active way. It’s also to set boundaries and lessen what causes stress.

Self-care is filling our cup, while stress-recovery is about regaining what was lost. The difference lies in why, and how, we tend to our needs, even if we use the same practices. Recovery comes first.

How can you care for yourself today?

If you’ve ever felt tired and depressed and think joy is out of reach, you’re not completely wrong. When I learned about the Emotional scale, as described by Esther and Abraham Hicks through their book “Ask and it is given” in 2005, so much fell into place for me. Through the self-help movement, and not to mention all the beautiful images and serene quotes flooding online, it’s easy to feel pressured to only feel elevated and high emotions. This is however not possible. And, without feeling anger and frustration, we don’t build up the necessary energy to use for change. We all want to feel good, free and happy, but why aren’t we?

The key to experiencing true joy and happiness, lies in taking it step by step. According to the Emotional scale, all emotions can only be improved incrementally. Our job, therefore, isn’t to force a smile and assume that we are a failure, if we don’t feel bliss. It’s rather our job, to find the next better emotion, than the one we currently feel. Here is the scale:

1. Joy, Freedom, Love, Appreciation, Strength
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm / Happiness
4. Positive expectations / Faith
5. Optimism
6. Hope
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration / Irritation / Lack of patience
11. Overwhelming
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame others
16. Mistrust
17. Anger
18. Vengeful
19. Hatred / Rage
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity / Guilt / Unworthiness
22. Fear / Grief / Depression / Hopelessness

So, by practicing gratitude, we can feel a sense of contentment. When we’ve found this, it becomes easier to also find happiness.

Where are you on this scale? Once you’ve identified which step you’re on, look one or two higher, and see what can you do to feel that instead.

Many years ago, when I went to see a Swedish minister at church, named Kent, to have someone to talk to before becoming baptized, I learned something valuable. I was expressing anxiety over the Oneness movement, that many yoga-practitioners had submerged themselves into, and how this to me, felt like an unspoken demand to conform to their ways, both in simple things like clothing and also in how to act and communicate. There were for example, a sense of total shaming of those who would display any emotion that were believed to be negative, such as anger or doubt, rather than getting to the root of the cause of these emotions, and taking responsibility for how people in the group, could have contributed to them arising. Likewise, I saw the danger in letting go of our Egos in a sense that “we should let go of our personalities and true needs”, which isn’t the same as softening and be less selfish.

Kent, my minister, asked me to shake hands with him as an example. Then, he said:

“It’s through the friction of our hands, we can have a true meeting.”

By that, he meant that if we would be too elusive and have no boundaries, everything would become so fluid, nothing would become substantial. This helped me understand the importance to stand my ground and develop my own sense of self further. To raise the topic of not striving to become the same, but rather have more diversity. It is also a major factor in how I would like Telluselle Living Center to offer different classes that incorporate a variety of schools and traditions, that still have integrity and keep the boundaries clear. Yoga is yoga. Qigong is qigong. Hula is Hula. And so forth. We dress appropriately for practices and performances, but don’t run around in our tunics, when we go shopping.

Instead, look to what unites us, such as: a strive to feel free, be connected to nature, and express our soul with art, while developing more compassion and community. All in ways, that have sustainability in mind, based on wellness.

Have you had any experience of coming into conflict with a group’s values? What is the difference between oneness and unity to you?

Regardless of what your desired change is, or which kind of goals you’d like to achieve, there are certain aspects, that I think is important for the coach-client relationship to work and become fruitful.

Here are 6 aspects that I look for:

1. Authenticity – dare to be yourself, strengths and weaknesses alike
2. Willingness to try – dare to believe in this pursuit and really do the assessments and action-steps
3. Honesty – dare to communicate how you feel and what you like and not
4. Openness – dare to let me present you with another perspective or discuss various options
5. Desire to grow – dare to look into your relationship patterns
6. Wanting to learn – dare to be real about your own needs and how to get them met

However, a bit of doubt, or lack of confidence, isn’t any obstacle, since these are natural things to work through with a lifecoach. It’s also paramount that you have an education, even if you’re not sure about working with it, or how to. You can also have a strong passion and not mind interning to learn a craft first-hand, if you seek career development. In return, you get my wholehearted support, attentive and non-judgmental listening, and commitment to help you succeed!

Would you like to try? A focused coaching session lasts 45 min, costs $100 and is usually conducted every two weeks, for you to have time to process and do exercises in between. The first session, to get to know how this work and each othe, is for free! Send me an email to book your first appointment on Zoom, completely without any obligation. I look forward to hear from you soon!

Some things are learned the hard way. Who to tell about what and when, is one of those things, I’ve had to learn to refrain myself from. I have always been an open and honest woman, who likes sharing and believes in mutual support of living our dreams. However, I have also encountered disbelief, negativity, suspicion and a lot of envy. And even some real lies about me.

To make things happen, does more so, when we voice our strive to improve, and start doing something, out loud. However, we need to find a true confidante. A person, who can be confidential and non-judgmental. It’s not without instilling courage, the word encouraging became. The best support, I’ve found, is from people who already have achieved many similar goals before me and thus don’t need to feel intimidated or threatened. A professional coach, can also be such a person, that both challenges you for a reality-check, and supports you all the way through.

Keeping things close to my chest, enables me to cultivate love and proper care; writing it down in my journal until.

The more present we become, the more aware we become. And, with an increased awareness, we can make more aware decisions. This is crucial to neither waste our own time, or others, and to feel purposeful. Stop reacting out of habit and take control over your own actions! Start by taking a deep breath. Then ask yourself:

What am I thinking right now?

What am I feeling right now?

What am I doing right now?

Why are you thinking, feeling, and doing it this way?

Is this what I want and need?

What will be the consequences of my decisions and actions for me and for others?

A positive sensation, will reaffirm and boost your confidence, giving you a little more energy and resolve to continue.

A negative sensation, will make you question and ponder what can be changed. Are you tending to your needs? Do you need to set a new boundary, both towards yourself and others? Can you stop and redirect yourself?

Now that you’ve become more aware, you also become more present. It works both ways!

Whether you want to become more creative, or find a solid purpose for your life, consider using the theme of improvement. Most inventions, as well as self-help workers, such as authors and life-coaches, seek to help others to improve their lives. You can take something existing, and try to improve that, or you can invent something completely new.

What are things you can improve?

• Materials – such as making something more eco-friendly and sustainable
• Methods – to become more efficient and encouraging
• Functions – how something literally is working, making it faster or more thorough

Improvements, can thus both be on the job and to help others, but can also be about your own personal wellbeing. How are you doing your chores? Which kind of cooking do you do?

When it comes to your practices, whether dance, yoga, qigong or any other, this too is about improving your strength, stamina and flexibility, as well as artistic expression and musicality. It can be about your overall performance, or tending to small details. Things that also can be divided into attainable goals that you evaluate regularly.

A way to look at improvement, is by looking to what you can learn more. So, what can you improve?

A couple of months ago, I woke up after a good night’s sleep, feeling inspired to write a book about creativity, that I wrote a blogpost about here. I have since then written a scope and an outline. Next, comes a proposal to send out to various publishers. But, why would I be a good fit for this task?

Three areas come into mind. First of all, I’ve worked in a creative profession since the 90’s, as a copywriter in advertising. This has enabled me to know how the creative process works for me and in collaboration with others. I’ve also worked once at TetraPak, where one of the world’s greatest inventions were made, that of a triangle shaped juice package and how.

Second, I’ve studied creativity, both at Berghs School of Communication in Stockholm, Sweden, when I became a copywriter, and Innovation and Creativity at Hawaii Pacific University in Honolulu, United States.

And third, my objective is to coach others to become more creative or simply pursue their passions and professions, which is part of how I’ve coached unemployed and young adults before.

I’ll keep you posted about the progress!

As someone who has undergone many traumas during my life, I’ve come to understand my own process fairly well. Tonight, almost exactly 24 hours since President Trump was shot at, I suddenly felt a sadness in my heart, when I saw yet another clip online. The point is, it takes a couple of clips, a couple of readings, a couple of storytelling shares, to fully grasp (if ever) the extent of something. A national (and international in part, since we’re all interconnected) trauma, is an excellent example to use in order to understand and alleviate our collective reactions.

First, we must take in the information. Disbelief might occur, or a rational instinct to simply ensure safety. Then, comes the shock, which can last anything from a couple of hours to a couple of days. Third, the news lands in our hearts, which can provoke grief, anger or depression. In this example, Donald Trump, isn’t just a man, husband and a father like so many others, but also a symbol for the United States, and for Freedom of speech in action. That too became hit at. As well as bystanders.

Personally, since Donald Trump is from Eugene, Oregon; I can’t help but be extra sympathetic and curious. This is where my mother Rose-Marie was an exchange student in the mid-60’s, loved, and returned to visit, and she was born the same year as President Trump. Have they met? Is she cheering on him from Heaven? Maybe.

A couple of months from now, we’ll all have moved on, some with a more defined direction and aim forward, making this another reason to always fight violence. This then, is to remember, we all need time to process.

Can you recognize your own reaction, in comparison to other things you’ve encountered in life? Is there a pattern, timeframe, and process you can trust? Becoming aware of this, help you heal.

Daring to become moved, is the greatest gift of all. Only by letting horrors land in our heart, can we develop and show compassion.

There are two reasons to create: One, is to create content for your followers (readers, clients, customers) and for that you need to investigate which needs they have and how you can meet them with your product, service and knowledge. The other, is to actualize our self, to release anxiety, or simply to enjoy our own artistic aspirations. But, how do you get inspired?

Everything in life can be an inspiration! To get you started, I’ve categorized it like this:

What you see (all you observe, such as in nature, cityscape or watch on TV, online etc)

What you feel (all your emotions bring a charge, an energy, that you can use to create with)

What you think (how you interpret your observations, the conclusions you make, opinions and impressions)

What you read (anything from fiction and horror, to memoires and science, can evoke inspiration)

What you hear (music, sounds, languages, radio and podcasts)

What you taste (food, drinks or even things that aren’t)

What you touch (the surface of rocks and bark, soft fabric, petting an animal or another person)

What you scent (flowers, perfume, food or even sweat)

What you wear (clothes, styles and fashion, colors, silhouettes, heels, jewellery etc)

What you imagine (dreams, fantasies, wishes, fears, uninhibited expressions)

What you remember (memories)

What others talk about (conversations with you, or by others that you hear about various topics)

Try looking at a mundane object. Describe what you associate with it. How does a water boiler make you feel? Ready to get going? Thirsty for a cup of tea? Ready to relax? Wanting to redesign it? Socialize? Write it down, or record, to either work with later, analyse and elaborate, or compare with another day.

Basically, everything we experience, that we either would like to share, understand better, or improve and beautify, can be the foundation for our creative expression. What inspires you?

One of the cornerstones in lifecoaching, is helping our clients to find life balance, ie a balance in how they use their time and energy. How are you using yours?

To find balance, comparing and using opposites are one way to ensure that the needs are met on both sides of the spectrum during the week. You can for example compare how you are spending your tme and energy when it comes to:

• Solitude vs companionship
• Activity vs rest
• Work vs leisure
• Awakened time vs sleep
• Indoors vs outdoors
• Input vs output

One example, can be how much information you’re taking in, and how much you’re giving out. To create a balance, you must either process what you’re reading, watching and listening to, by sharing your reactions with someone, through night dreams, or write about them. Likewise, to write, you must have some kind of input and inspiration, such as what others are saying, what you’re experiencing and feeling, or observing, or a safe space to explore your imagination. This is the essence of nurturing and refilling your cup. You must empty it sometimes, in order for it to become refilled.

To make it more visible, you can use use a scale and take note of how you’ve used your time the last month or two. Make an honest evaluation of what feels good and what you would like more or less of. You can also fill in this life wheel and make an estimate of how much time and energy you’re spending in each area. What can you let go of? What can you begin doing? What can you change?

To discuss this further, don’t hesitate to contact me for a lifecoaching session, either in person or through Zoom. The first one is complimentary, and the following as agreed upon. A good recommendation, is to try for three months, with a session every other week.

Have you ever marveled at how green a broccoli can be and how red some apples and tomatoes are? Then they’re probably somewhat fake, ie sprayed or developed and grown in such a way to look. Not all bananas have the exact same size and bend. In fact, nature show us plenty of variations and always reflects the climate, it’s been grown in. They become an extension of the current state of the land.

For any produce or meat to be called organic, there are three definite obligations that must be met:

1. The soil must be organic and no use of pesticides or chemical fertilizers.
2. The seeds should be heirloom and not genetically manipulated.
3. The harvest and distribution, should also be without chemicals involved in the handling.

While getting an approved label might be costly for small businesses, it still shows the integrity of the agriculture as manufacturing. You can read more about the requirements for an American organic label here, and about the Swedish label here.