To release tension and stress in your body, you can try getting the Hawaiian massage Lomilomi. It’s traditionally performed by a therapist using both underarms and elbows, besides hands. Likewise, it’s important to give both sides of the body equal attention, and at times with pressure diagonally, which helps to reconnect and balance our right and left sides. Some therapists, offer to say a prayer first, and together using your own breath, you can get a deeper healing experience, helping you to push through and release any built up tension that is stored in your muscles.

For me personally, it’s been very helpful to get Hawaiian Lomilomi, which has enabled me a spiritual realignment and centeredness too, that I felt especially in Lund, in the south of Sweden, where I got my first treatment in 2009, and later in Honolulu, HI 2010, and in Estoril, Portugal 2015. It’s how I became reconnected with my inner child and could let her integrate. A couple of days ago, in Stockholm, Sweden, I got myself a new treatment, which was focused primarily on my physical wellbeing. Nonetheless, it also brought back some feelings of nostalgia and relief. I believe the effect becomes more wholesome and better, with the add of ocean air and salt water, but it feels very comforting and re-assuring that Hawaiian Lomilomi can be offered throughout the world, including here in Sweden. And naturally, this is why I’d like to include this in the offerings at Telluselle Living Center.

Having had to live in closed and shared quarters for many years, now having enough space to roam in, makes the difference palpable, also internally. Not only can I practice yoga, qigong and dance warm-up at home, I can physically define areas in my apartment for rest, for work, for eating, for socializing etc. To each area, I attach, and detach, what comes with it. I can leave each at its own, and thus can be more present and more relaxed, showering it off before going to bed.

We all want to feel safe. Especially at home, in a home that we can call our own. Having one, is the foundation for getting all our needs met, as well as having room to process, plan and execute action-steps towards fulfilling our goals. This is why having one, always is a priority. Why I have had to fight for this, so many years in a country like Sweden, is very cruel.

As someone, who always seek to create and communicate, not getting my train of thought disrupted, is invaluable. Having a space to sit and write without interruption, makes it possible to keep the tone and desired way of expression much easier. It’s like the external space, also enlarges my inner space, so that I can manoeuvre and navigate my feelings, impressions and ideas much easier, which in turn makes for better decision making.

This is why I personally, use Feng Shui, and live in a simple color-coordinated harmony, free from clutter and any excess things, which means free from distractions. (This in turn, is what I seek to extend, when I build Telluselle Living Center.)

And when we feel safe, we can contribute more with our time and energy, for the benefit of others.

Think of a time, when you felt pure joy. What were the conditions like? What were you doing? And what were you thinking? By realizing this, through our own experience, we can seek to re-create it. Maybe this is even why it’s called recreation?

I’ve found that the common denominator for me, is when I’m able to lose myself in an activity and letting go of my self-consciousness. That is, when my worry for how I look, or what others will think of me, takes the back seat. Or I don’t even think about it at all! This doesn’t mean that I’m not aware of how I look, for example of my posture while practicing dance. But my focus is, in the here and now, completely. Experiencing it. It might just be so with everything that we do in deep concentration, and with an outwardly expression, which means that it’s also true when we’re immersed into a conversation, or any activity that you fancy.

It can also be when you feel victorious, such as having overcome a fear, or remembering what it was like, when you grew up and played. To experience joy, add therefore an element of play into your action – approach what you’re doing with the eyes of a bold child and have fun.

Joy is right there, for you too.

Most of us, say we want change, yet don’t do what is needed. There are various ways to look at this, and find both the motivation and the energy. First of all, the reward of changing must be greater than not, including taking action. If you’re too tired, you’re too tired and thus need rest. Then, resting is more rewarding because it feel better and is even crucial to your health. But, if you’re just feeling sluggish, you will feel better after going for a brisk walk in the forest, for example, and this feeling, is the reward of moving your body and getting fresh air. Discover what makes you feel better, is an important step.

Second, feeling frustrated or even getting into a conflict due to someone asking you to change, whether at work or privately in a relationship, can actually create the energy needed. Think of it as friction. The friction we feel when we rub our hands together, is what creates heat. And friction forces us to get out of our comfort zone and seek out action. Action that creates change.

And third, it’s natural to feel resistance. It’s scary to try something new. You might have to overcome your ego, just wanting to be in the right. Or perhaps you feel pushed into the change, by your boss or significant other. Then the best thing you can do, is to take charge by finding your own reason to change:

What can I get out of following through with this proposed change?

Will you get better paid? Become more fit? Free up time? Look better? Become seen as a hero? Grow closer and deepen a relationship? Develop a sense of being more trustworthy? Or even, finding a reason to quit altogether and not go through with someone else’s desired change, but turn it into an event you’d like to have, but with other people and elsewhere?

A lifecoach, can also help support and clarify your options. What do you need to change?

Photo and make-up by Model House Sweden

The first time, I realized that I was able to reflect in action, was on stage. Reflection in action, is a term developed by Douglas Schon, who together with Chris Argyris also developed the concept of double loop learning. Reflection in action means to be able to be so present and aware that you can catch yourself in the midst of doing something, and alter course, such as changing how you’re communicating. Performing a play or dancing on stage, can be an opportunity and a must to, such as if you lose a line or someone else does in your play, you need to be able to improvise and steer it back into the original text. The same goes for dancing, if you forget a piece of choreography, or danced a motion too fast, you have to be able to improvise and do another motion, in order to not lose flow and keep the audience entertained unbeknownst.

Translating reflection in action, to our daily lives, means to remember to be aware and present in all your interactions. Ask yourself regularly: Am I doing what I planned to? Am I doing this my preferred way, or the right way as told? Am I coming across to others in a manner I didn’t mean and can say something differently or in a different way? Being present like this, also enables our instincts and our intuition to speak more loudly.

Then we can of course also reflect on action, which means to think about what we did, said and wanted afterwards an event, situation or in a relationship. This enables us to evaluate what we’re doing so that we can understand and find our own motivation to change, and do so accordingly.

To discuss your reflections, don’t hesitate to contact your favorite lifecoach!

There is something enchanting about how art can inspire another art. A piece of music, can move a dancer and inspire a choreography. A dancer can inspire a painter. And a poet can inspire a musician, for example.

It’s all about one thing – capturing a motion. A motion, often originating in nature.

Like Isadora Duncan has said: “To seek in nature the fairest forms and to find the movement which expresses the soul of these forms — this is the art of the dancer.“

Painting: Fairydance by Hans Zatzka

Usually, yoga is associated with being flexible and practice various asanas (motions) that help us become more flexible. But, yoga can also be used to develop strength. This is done, by holding ourselves in the position through our own resistance and discipline, while we stretch, such as in this photo. I’m stretching the sides, but keeping my hips still and facing forward, which enables me to get a focused movement on the sides, while using focused breathing. The motion becomes a dynamic between stretching and holding.

Another simple example to try, is while you stretch out the front part of your thighs by bending your knee and holding your foot behind you, try to also squeeze your butt and push it slightly forward. Can you feel the difference?

Learning to hold our positions, is what enable us to develop strength. Something that can be translated and used in life too.

To see a video with the side stretch, click here.

While waiting to be able to build Telluselle Living Center, here is a practice video for now, of me dancing a classic Hawaiian Hula Christmas song at home, until a real Kumu can join:

Merry Christmas!

We all want to feel connected and that we belong. Many search for a group and adopt to their culture, whether ways of talking or dressing, eating or listening to music, but it can soon become a role we play, an imposed persona with which we don’t operate from an authentic place. A pressure to conform from the outside. If we instead, meet where diversity is celebrated, and center around a cause or topic, creating goals together, we can build relationships that truly nourish and support us. All sought from inside, to match our own values.

Sometimes, it’s nice to put aside all our commitments to others, our own history and any current dramas at home, and simply focus on something else, without baring our souls. This too, can be done with authenticity, as long as we remain truthful and honest about our own values and experiences. We can for example discuss equality in the workplace, without disclosing any private information, if we don’t feel like it, but still share our own examples from work, besides our own opinions and ideas.

To really connect on a deeper level, however, we must dare to share our own struggles and how we overcame them, our own journey, our own questions and concerns, our own hopes and dreams, so that others may recognize themselves with similarity. When we found our conversations through real-life examples, it becomes increasingly more easy to find and express empathy, through which we can truly support each other, to heal and grow. Together, we can create progress and safety. And form a sense of unity based on diversity.

The sacred circles, support groups, and coaching groups, at Telluselle Living Center, is thus about storytelling with a purpose, passing a talking stick.

One of the perspectives you can use, when planning and improving your life, is the one of sustainability. The goal of living eco-friendly, is to create more sustainability. This means, that we want to design our life, in a way that can support future generations, as well as making our own last better.

Factors to consider can be:

Is my choice of profession sustainable? How is my job affecting the climate, others’, and my own health?

What is my wealth of knowledge? How can I transpire this to my own children, customers, co-workers or students?

Are my buys sustainable? My choice of power source for energy, choice of food, how I use water, fabric and style of clothes, care products, cleaning and detergents, and so forth.

What makes me feel joy? A happy person, has better health. What makes me happy?

Do I have sustainable relationships? Am I connecting from a place of authenticity? Do I care for my relationships to last?

Is my life-balance, and the use of my time and energy, sustainable? Am I pushing a lot into my schedule, or taking time to rest and reset in between?

Do I live with a purpose? What is a cause that I feel deeply for and like to support? How can what I do in life, contribute to a better society?

To talk these over, contact me for a series of life-coaching sessions. Each session lasts for an hour and costs 100 USD, either in person or through Zoom. You decide yourself for how long and how often (I recommend once every two weeks, for three months, to define and implement a change.) The first coaching session, is for free!

Part of living eco-friendly, is to develop your own relationship to the land. We do this, by connecting with nature, where we’re living. Hopefully, even if you live in a city, there is nature not too far away, like a park, a piece of forest, or a small beach by a lake. Make this into your own sanctuary, that you visit regularly. But, how do you then develop a sense of being one with nature?

Here are some tips:

• Be present (don’t distract yourself with music, or even conversations)
• Indulge in your senses (notice the scents, sounds and sights, touch the surface of a rock or tree)
• Assume a state of wonder (marvel at the height of trees, the delicate design of leaves, colorful flowers and the beauty of it all)
• Remember your place in the eco-system (which animals are below you and which are above you in the hierarchy of preys and predators)
• Notice the seasons (and eat accordingly when possible)
• Grow something in a garden, or a pot indoors, and tend to with care

Simply put, spend time outdoors and feel the aliveness, that you also are part of.

How many people do you know, who work in the same field of profession, as one of their parents? Back in the day, farmers often expected their sons to continue after their own passing, but nowadays, most of us don’t need to. Nonetheless, some do become what their parents also are. But, is it the right job for you?

I, myself, was expected to get an academic higher degree, since my father has a doctorate in Ethnography. I wasn’t thrilled about it and chose another path, a more creative one as a copywriter. When I turned 30 however, I realized I lacked knowledge and wanted to acquire that, and thus got a Master’s degree but in Workscience and Organizational Change.

When I grew up, I decided early that I didn’t want to become like neither my mother, nor my father, but that had of course more to do with their behaviors and modes of communication. How they were as people. Now, that I feel more comfortable in my own skin, and have my own faith, it also becomes increasingly easier to honor both my parents through their knowledge, that they’ve shared freely. This, we can further and apply, to be put to good use and even developed. My mother was a language teacher and my father an author and a journalist. So, I use my talent in languages, when I travel and live abroad, as well as now, writing in English. And the writing of course, is something that has followed me since I was little, but I write about other things and in other ways than my father does.

Whether inherited genes or a developed talent, what your parents did for a living can be a clue to choose your own profession. To understand what you already have in your own backpack in terms of skills and tools, and accumulated knowledge, through their sharing of experiences. Or even to know, what you absolutely don’t want to do. Sometimes, being sure of what we don’t want, makes it easier to find out what we do. And, you can always change.

If you’d like to explore more about pursuing a profession, don’t hesitate to contact me for a series of coaching sessions by Zoom or in person. The first one is for free without any obligations!

So… my chosen theme for 2025 to focus on for my personal development and healing, is… Articulation. My mother taught me the importance of this, when I was in my teens and started singing in choirs, as well as for pronunciation when I talk. But, since I had braces for many years growing up, I wanted to hide my mouth and never really did articulate well. Similarly, during 2008-10, 2013-15 and 2020-2024, I haven’t been able to speak properly, besides eating, because of my teeth. Now, finally, and thanks to a grant, I have received dental implants both for my upper jar and my lower jar, and what better then, to focus on articulating better?!

Articulate, is to use our mouth deliberately and more consciously, to become better understood, and for songs to become better heard, as well as when giving talks of course. I love doing that, and held a couple really good ones 2002-04, but haven’t been able to since. So, this is something I look forward to taking up again!

And, I started practicing a little, on my Threads, that you can listen to here.

As this year is drawing near to a close, this is a good time to do a recap. Simply write down a sentence or two, for each month that has passed, and what entailed during the month. Did you learn something specific? Did you end anything? Began anything? What improved? This enables you to keep track of your progress and feel proud of your accomplishments. Check in with your goals too, and see whether or not you are closer to fulfilling them, or what more you need to do. Are they even still valid and wanted?

Next, comes defining a theme, a word to focus on, for next year, that you can let guide you in all your interactions, regardless where and what life takes you through. It can be something interpersonal that enables you to improve your ways of relating. Or it can be something completely based on your own needs of self, that you like to develop or heal. Two examples, I’ve used recent years, have been Posture and Enthusiasm: How am I standing in line? Walking? Carrying myself? How do I feel about a certain job or place to live? About a certain person that wants to meet?

Making a theme, a specific word to focus on, into your New Years Resolution, makes it a whole lot easier to keep and carry out. (This is something I’ve come up with and practiced myself for more than 20 years as a Lifecoach, which is how I know it works. I will share mine for 2025 soon!) A specific theme to focus on, also help you to stay motivated and centred, letting it be your inspiration.

Then, celebrate the holidays, and get some needed rest, to start off next year on a high note.

What are you going to focus on?

About 15 years ago, I started pondering about how much natural disasters can be an effect by us humans. It started with delving into Hawaiian mythology about Volcanic Goddess Pele and suddenly experiencing an earthquake in the south of Sweden, which is very rare. It came shortly after a deep drilling had been done to make a tunnel underneath a mountain. Was the earthquake because of that? Is there an actual cause and effect, or simply accumulated due to pollution and such?

In Hawaii, there is a belief that a group of Kahunas (priests and experts) gathered and together performed a focused prayer meditation with a visualisation of a wall, to stop or halter a tsunami, which then worked. The power of the mind! I also often got headaches, when an earthquake were about to happen, besides a bit of faul smell of vog. In Portugal, I soon started feeling whenever the tide was shifting in my body, so that we become affected by these planetary changes is evident. But, can we change the tide?

According to a post on X by Elon Musk, there is something referred to as the Kardashev scale, where the first type A, is a civilization being able to store and use the entire energy of the planet, including controlling natural events. The mentioned researcher is a Russian from 1964. Are there experiments?

We can pray of course. And see how the rain stops within 15 minutes when we step out the door. At least, it usually does when I’m without an umbrella, in Sweden, but not elsewhere. A shamanic thing based on love and reverence. I don’t think, anyone should have power over nature, or try to dabble with natural forces, unless it’s simply to harness for actual use, such as to create energy. We’re part of. And what we do to nature, we do to ourselves.

We all want to have a good health. Often, we strive for something that feels unattainable or focus on what we lack, which just makes it worse. What we can do instead, is to focus on getting our needs met and do a weekly check-in with ourselves:

Have my physical needs been met? Sleep, rest, food, water, fresh air, exercise, and daylight.

Have my emotional needs been met? Care, support, feeling seen and heard, as well as been loving.

Have my mental needs been met? Thinking positive thoughts, focusing on solving problems, processing information and feedback.

Have my spiritual needs been met? Attending church, praying, reading spiritual texts, chanting, journaling or meditating.

Another tip, is to write down afterwards what you’ve practiced and when, instead of planning beforehand, in case you feel stressed out and don’t know if you can keep your plans. Then, rather do what you can and when, instead of at a pre-determined time. Through this, you can find out when it’s easier for you to commit to a regular practice, rather than trying to fit it into your schedule. And, most importantly, don’t beat yourself up for not having it all together. Nobody has. Just do what you can, regularly. It’s better to do yoga once a week on different days, than none.

Tending to your needs, is a gift to yourself. The gift of self-care.

Here is a short video, presenting the plan to build Telluselle Living Center, where classes will be offered in dance, qigong, yoga and meditation, where sacred circles and group coaching will be hosted, and workshops and seminars.

Enjoy!

In our support groups, conversation circles and sacred circles, we will have different themes and topics that we delve into. As with all coaching, they are built on the members answers and own development, rather than any teachings. Through my lead and questions, this can occur naturally, once we’ve established good rapport, and set the rules (such as vowing to show each other respect, confidentiality and openness).

Questions for a support group can sound like:

What did you lack growing up from your parents?

What are you lacking now?

How can you ensure that you now will receive and meet these needs?

Questions for a conversation circle or think-tank, can be to discuss:

How can we ensure a better food quality?

Which sustainable energy source can be used inside a city for apartments?

What are the ideals that we see in social media and how can we respond to this?

Questions for a sacred circle can be:

What is your innermost wish come true?

Which real-life examples have you experienced with a sense of Divine timing or presence?

What is stopping you from living your own best life?

Altogether, the main question to answer together is:

How can we solve the problems we see in society, in our own communities, and in our own family? At home, in school or on the job?

If you have any thoughts and suggestions, feel free to comment, or bring to our group sessions!

Photos show trunks of a pine tree, a birch tree and an oak tree.