Dancing barefoot

What does Hawaiian Hula, West African dance and Isadora Duncan have in common? And why do I want to host these three disciplines at Telluselle Living Center?

First of all: The music. All three disciplines mainly use instrumental music, whether percussion or classic piano, and live. And the Hawaiian language, by its own logic, allow us to focus more on the melody, since we don’t speak Hawaiian. We might though!

Second: The themes. All three forms of dancing have nature in common, whether it’s to pay tribute to, or to share the history of a place. There is also a spiritual element.

And third: We dance barefoot, and we often perform outside.

Other types of dancing, like Modern or Jazzdance, derive from West African and Isadora Duncan, together with Classical ballet and Martha Graham, but are not going to be offered at TLC. However, for those interested in seeing dance as a form of healing, there will be Ecstatic dancing and 5rhythms to practice.

We’re one with Earth.

Photo shows an Isadora Duncan dance pose.

Creating a culture

Everything from how we dress, to how we communicate in a group, constitutes a culture. To create one for its members to feel a strong sense of community, fellowship and belonging, is a must and the primary tool for its leader, to create a successful organization. And often, we have both an informal leader and an employed. The informal leader is a person that the group tend to go to, while the employed leader is a manager or a director. The best result for the organization and its culture, is of course that there is harmony with both, or that there is no need for an informal leader.

At Telluselle Living Center, my thought is to employ, or assign, small business owners and leaders of various practices to operate under the same roof, with a joint strategy for marketing and sales, as well as shared rent, and profit! With so many teacher training courses nowadays, I assume that there are plenty of people who wants to teach. And as long as someone is following a path of lineage of the practice (Yoga, Qigong, Meditation, Hula, Isadora Duncan, WestAfrican, 5rhythms as well as Pranic healing and Lomimlomi), we will be good to go!

Are you interested to be part of this venture? Or to learn more about this plan? Contact me for more information.

Borders and boundaries

One of the cornerstones of Lifecoaching, is to clarify and communicate boundaries more consciously. We can think of a boundary to be very much like a border. Although we may strive for unity, it’s not consistent with human nature to just tag along. Rather enforcing our borders and boundaries, is a must for our survival. Animals have marked their territories for centuries, and so do humans. But, the question then arises, when we consider our groups as global, both culturally and online, where do we draw the line? And how much should we fight to protect these borders?

Start by centering yourself in a state of meditation. Then go through and feel your entire body. Become aware of your feet, hands, face, arms etc and think of how this is your first border, your primary space for your soul to dwell in.

After that, expand your awareness to encompass the room and the house you are in. Who do you let in and on what premises? It must even be why we use the same word, isn’t it? Which are your rules? Your values that these rest on?

Then, it’s time to embrace the world as your space, Mother Earth, and her population. Find your role in the eco-system. What do you contribute with to our food-chain? It’s by finding our identities here, we can grow a spiritual connection to Source, and thus experience oneness.

And finally, claim your outer space, your cyberspace. Where do you draw the lines there? Do you add strangers and let that be how you get to know new friends, or do you only add people you have met in person? Or that belong to the same church or other point of interest?

Most people are completely unaware of your thinking and feeling, which is why you must make this clear to your family, friends and co-workers. Alas, it’s time to communicate these boundaries and borders! You can state something on your profiles online, adjust your settings, and likewise apply this by deciding who to invite or not, just like the people you actually surround yourself with. If you aren’t in a group that makes you feel both comfortable, uplifted and encouraged, find a new! Both online, and in real life.

Don’t know where to begin? Schedule an appointment to be coached.

Photo from Belem, Portugal.

Dance as praise

Some people have said that it would be inappropriate for a Christian to dance, that it would be vulgar and like a savage, wearing a silk-tunic or a grass-skirt, I think it is neither. In fact, it says in the Bible that we should praise God with dancing (Psalms 150:4).

At Telluselle Living Center, we dance in a spiritual framework, as intended by the original choreographies and interpreted often as a dialogue.

Picture from the Angel Blessing cards by Kimberley Marooney.

Setting priorities

Ever since I started learning about, and practicing, Lifecoaching, both on myself, and later with clients, I have advocated making a list of priorities. This to ensure that we will get that life-balance we seek, and how. You simply choose 5 areas, and list them in order of importance. My list is:

  1. Health
  2. Work
  3. Home
  4. Love
  5. Social life

Whenever I’m about to make a decision that may have a great impact on my life, I check in with this list. Will my choice honor my health, so that it will enable me to feel better? Will it stop me from contributing my best to society, or enable? This all have its foundation, in how we build our relationships. While people who are ill, of course should feel love and have a social life even so, but if we found our relationships on the level where we feel a certain way, physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, it will become the foundation of our love and friendships. It would for example be all about a certain trauma, if that was what brought us together, rather than meeting when we feel filled with joy and good health. Thus, striving for optimum health becomes necessary, for all other areas to become balanced.

These are also our needs, that are in constant parallel waning or growing, depending on our lives. The important thing is, not to strive for a perfect pie chart, with a perfect amount of hours for each every day, but to see how it adds up as a whole and what might be missing and of benefit to increase or lessen, for more success.

Would you like to apply this on your own life? Book a session with a personal coach!

Honoring Mother Earth

I have previously shared that how we approach ourselves, others and nature is paramount in understanding how we can increase our care. I have always liked to think of my walks in nature, as a sacred practice, entering a forest as if it was a church. I compose myself, walk softly and slowly, breathing in the freedom of space. I have never tried to do this together with others here in Sweden, but have wondered if I could teach how. But my concern is, if the actual alone practice is needed to foster a strong, spiritual, connection to Mother Earth, that for me, began by horseback riding as a teen.

In Hawaii, however, I was blessed to be allowed to participate in gatherings and practices of Hula outdoors with a group of Hula students, both at the Ko’olau Range and at Kailua beach, as well as the moratorium of the royals. We chanted, danced and made an offering (food and flowers). One common chant goes something like this:

Basically, the Hawaiian chant “E Laka E“, is a call to the goddess of nature, that is aimed to prepare us and ask for permission to enter. It’s also said that we should leave the place nicer, than when we came. And to mind where we walk, since we can not know, who might be buried underneath.

How do you approach Mother Earth? Next time you go for a walk or take a drive along the coastline, allow yourself to be alone and in deep communion with these powers. It’s what true oneness is about.

Living authentically

To live a life led by joy, we must do our homework to face and deal with our own inner resistance and shadow. To experience joy, we must put all expectations aside, taking nothing for granted. And to meet life with the wonder of a child, with our own parental guidance harmoniously blended.

A good way to start, is to downscale and remove everything that you don’t need. Be daring. You need water, food, sleep, clothes, shelter and walks outside. And perhaps medicine to fight of attacks on your immune system. But that’s it. The world we live in, wants us to believe that we need so much more, scaring us if we don’t succumb to continuous acquisitions. What we really need is to live by truth.

Who are you? What do you believe in? What is important to you? Are you following your own advice or the exclamations, that you deliver to others? Have you ever listened to someone without saying what you think he, or she, should say or do? Instead of making her, or him, fit into the picture you would like to paint, really listen and accept that person as exactly, who they are. This is the same acceptance you can use on yourself. Notice how peaceful and relaxing you become, when you step into the presence of accepting.

To get clear on your own needs and priorities, your goals and actions, book an appointment with a certified lifecoach today. Let your spirit soar!

Feel free!

At Telluselle Living Center, my ambition is that our customers and teachers will feel free:

Free in your body to experiment with, and express, various dance-forms and other movement practices.

Free in your mind to discuss and share your own experiences, lessons and ideas.

Free in your spirit to believe in what you do and speak thereof.

And free in your heart to love whomever you choose.

Your pursuit of life, liberty and happiness. To improve your life, others’ and earth.

The need for beauty

A sunset or sunrise. A flower in its full splendor. A small seashell with a crack. Or a leaf, trembling with vulnerability as it shows us its veins. Fresh to its touch, and lush.

I think beauty is a need in itself. It’s a call to reconnect with Mother Earth by going outdoors. It’s a yearning to become showered by impressions of the ecstatic kind, by a beauty rendering one speechless, and never numb to the feel. It’s to revel in the symphony of colors and sounds, lights and scents, all becoming life. It’s a longing to be fed.

Go out and meet it!

Increase your creativity

Stuck in a rut? Scared to get out of your comfort zone, or perhaps you might even wonder what it is? Everything that we do regularly, becomes a daily routine and a habit. For us to experience an actual change in our lives, we must improve and change what we do, and how. Remaining the same, is considered being in your own comfort zone, where most of your friends and parents also prefer you to be, in order to fit you into their own patterns of behavior. It can, at times, be good to remain with what and how you are doing things to be safe, but to grow and evolve, we must change. Actually changing how you do things, will bring you onto the path of progress. Creativity is simply to do something different, to combine things you normally don’t, or to do something completely new. It can also be in terms of expressions (art, literature etc),

Here are some tips on how to increase your creativity:

  • Do it the opposite way. Do you normally take a shower before your brush your teeth in the morning? Try changing the order.
  • Walk/Drive a different route to your workplace or to where you pick up groceries.
  • Imagine and visualise how you want things to be. Describe it vividly in your journal.
  • Brainstorm ideas on your own, or together with a friend, or your coach.
  • Change perspective. Remember those exercises for the debate team? Try being con in issues that you normally are pro, or vice versa. (This one is also good to become more inclusive or to found a more firm belief and value.)
  • Make something – a cake, refurbish a piece of furniture, or write that piece of poetry you carry in your heart.
  • Figure out a solution to a problem

It’s my ambition to host creativity circles as part of the coaching department at Telluselle Living Center, with a focus on green innovation and improved health. Ready to share your ideas?

Live Aloha!

In Hawaii, there is a common thread in how you treat others and the land, that is called the Aloha-spirit. It permeates everyone, with its rich kindness and presence of good cheer. It derives from accepting that on an island, you must take deliberate measures to agree. That on an island, you can’t escape and we all have to depend on one another for our survival. Hence, the development of the Ho’oponopono practice – a Hawaiian forgiveness technique – and a culturally rooted kindness and care in the simple, yet profound, acknowledgement of the need to share.

Aloha means to joyfully share breath. To “Live Aloha” means to extend one’s care without selfish motives towards others. To be kind. And to enjoy the beauty of nature. This certainly is something we can all do, everywhere, not just in Hawaii. You can:

  • Help someone
  • Let someone pass before you in a line
  • Greet someone with a smile
  • Care to listen
  • Share a meal
  • Give a compliment
  • Ask for what another needs
  • Show respect
  • Recycle and reduce waste

Inspiration for other things you can do, can be found here.

Being playful

When did you laugh the last time, so much you had to brace yourself or started to cry? With all the atrocities that are going on in the world, we must not fall into despair or desperation, and succumb to this darkness, but fight it with light and good energy. To increase good energy, you can work on attaining a state of playfulness. A state of having fun!

So, if you find yourself stuck in a rut, or feeling a bit hopeless, make sure you do something that excites you. What does? Something that is about exploring with wonder, and brings forth your smile.

Here is a list of examples you can use:

  • Play with children
  • Go for an adventure outdoors
  • Watch a specific movie or TV-series (I love watching “Fawlty Towers” with John Cleese.)
  • Try something you haven’t done before
  • Do art, like finger-painting, or clay molding
  • Bake a cake and taste the batter
  • Start collecting figures, stamps or any other memorabilia you treasure
  • Share a mishap with someone who loves you
  • Turn up the volume of a favorite song, and sing and dance to it

What else can you think of? Schedule a time to have fun. Its reward is priceless and you will draw closer to Mother Earth.

Breathing with the ocean

Whenever I miss Hawaii, I like to listen both to Hawaiian music of course, but also to the sounds of the ocean. There is something very soothing and relaxing, listening to the waves crushing the shore. Listening to this sound makes a great companion to your meditation practice. It’s also how I like to begin my Hula practices to feel in tune.

Simply stand with your feet hip wide apart, or sit down, while you let the sound of waves be heard in the background. Now, start to breathe in the same rhythm as the oceanwaves. Inhale with the build up and exhale to release as the wave rolls in. After a while, you might even feel one with the ocean!

Day to day progress

In order to really feel positive change, we must feel it in our daily lives. While most of us long for pristine beaches, lush mountains, and only hearing birdsong outside our windows, going on a retreat will produce nothing. You probably even become more tired than rested, if you are led by the belief that you need to achieve something on your vacation. Besides, travelling somewhere should be about the destination, not a practice. A way to explore, discover and celebrate.

Telluselle Living Center is going to be designed like a spa, and be situated in a park close to the city; a site used for activities after work, that directly become integrated with your daily life. In fact, our sacred conversation circles are meant to be used as a sounding board for improving your relationships, increasing your creativity, and trying new ways of looking at life, as it is here and now. Trying, and then returning to the group with an experience to share, to see how it works. Lifecoaching, qigong, meditation, yoga and dancing are all too precious to not practice regularly. And the only way to incorporate any lessons we might have learned by listening to a lecture, gone to a workshop, or tried on a retreat, is to indeed do it, where we live. It’s also the only way we can measure our progress.

I hope you’ll join me.

What is a dialogue?

There is no better tool for peace and personal development than the dialogue. It builds on both parties entering it, show utmost respect and neutrality. It’s not about taking sides, or be right or wrong, but rather about hearing each other out, on equal grounds, with an approach that is genuine. In order for a dialogue to work, we must follow certain steps, to honor the process as intended:

  1. Set a place and time on neutral ground (ie not at home or either’s workplace)
  2. Decide on a topic or state the problem
  3. Explore the definition of the topic or problem
  4. Summarize
  5. Suggest solutions
  6. Find consensus, often a mix of solutions, or a third way, will arise
  7. Make a conclusion and preferably a decision

And later, we follow up with an evaluation, checking that action has been taken accordingly.

The dialogue thus, is more than a regular conversation. It’s the tool we use as Lifecoaches, usually for 45 min, which is an average proven time, that we are able to focus and be fully present – a must! You can see it as a good interview. When we offer a dialogue (a coaching session), the solemn purpose is to bring forth your own best strategies to reach a goal. It can also be used to create forgiveness.

Try it yourself!

Setting a health goal

Something I have learned lately, is to consider my shape of the day, before rising to the occasion. Often when we aim to increase our vitality, or simply want to feel better, we tend to forget what our starting point is. To feel better, ie become more healthy, we must take this into account, that nothing is ever constant, change is. There simply is no way to always feel good. But we can find a good enough level.

To raise our wellness, is possible when we focus on getting our needs met, and learn to adapt these needs to our current state, whether we need an extra boost of this or that, to rest, or finding an opportune time to do something strenuous. What we really want, is to improve our shape of the day, so that we can live in optimum health, rather than aim for an achievement.

How do you feel? What is different yesterday from today, and what do you desire? What can you do today to restore your loss, or build something better? Which needs are more important to fulfil right now? What created this goal and how can you make sure you don’t fall back?

Book a session with your favorite lifecoach to feel better!

What is self-care?

If you are interested in personal development and yoga, you probably have encountered the phrase “self-care”, but what is it really? Is it to do yoga every day and drink smoothies?

Self-care is about tuning into, and showing care, towards oneself. It’s to not be violent against oneself, as Lori Belilove, Isadora Duncan dance teacher, put it. It’s in how we do things. How we use our hands and our bodies, how we take the stand in a pose, being careful and gentle.

Self-care is about tending to our needs of anything from solitude and reflection, to socialising, sleeping and eating, exercising and spending time outdoors, and feeding our spiritual and intellectual curiosity with more knowledge. Part of tending to these needs, can be wellness practices, that we can use towards feeling better and become more productive at work or in our studies. But the wellness practice in itself, such as yoga, qigong and meditation, isn’t it. You need to also be able to love yourself, in order to exercise proper self-care. To give yourself tender loving care.

Healing modalities

In my quest to heal both physical symptoms and a grieving soul, I have tried several methods (besides counselling) to do so, since the mid 90’s. Here are more about my experiences:

Acupuncture felt like it did affect me so much that I just got more symptoms. However, Acupressure and its adjoining massage, helped me feel balanced and relaxed. Medical qigong activated my own self-healing. And Energymassage and Shiatsu continued it, refilling myself.

Deeksha have also been given me, but mostly with negative emerging feelings, whereas Shaktipat enabled me to do another shamanic journey to my subconscious and heal a childhood experience.

Reiki gave me some moments of warmth and releasing tears, but nothing that lasted. It felt similar to be prayed upon, with the laying of hands, which I have received in church.

Lomilomi massage felt like an extension of acupressure, with a participatory breathing work. This helped me feel realigned with my old self as a young adult, and has given me the best result.

Pranic healing felt light and uplifting, as a removal of clouds and more direct. A clearing.

Divine Diamond healing was something I tried in a group, where healing was channeled through meditation.

Naprapathy was an adjustment of posture, providing my body with more inner space to function better, while Rolfing, I thought was too rough, ie hurting.

At Telluselle Living Center, we’ll offer what is preferred by our customers, with a focus on Lomilomi, Pranic healing and Acupressure, while we also recognize that herbs and flower essences, such as Aromatherapy, can aid. These healing modalities don’t constitute any need of worship or require a specific faith, but aims to create wellness with a raised awareness of one’s body, mind and soul.

Am I culturally appropriating Hawaii?

I sincerely hope not. I will always remember a special moving feeling, when I watched Hula being danced in Waikiki, the first time in 2004, and realize that I can learn that. The answer to my yearning towards becoming more feminine, simply presented itself, together with my own passion. I have gone through this process together with Hawaiians, both when it comes to dancing Hawaiian Hula and practicing Ho’oponopono, and feel great sympathy with the exploitation by Hollywood.

In 2007, I received lots of criticism and negative reviews of my Hula, after posting videos of my own choreographies and having performed on Sweden’s Got Talent on TV4, for which I have apologized, and later learned more in Hawaii, to improve.

In 2018 or so, it was a group on Facebook expressing their concern about my Ho’oponopono. I have only learnt the real Hawaiian one, by reading Morrnah Simeona. And, I also have a conversation technique and organizational behavior education, that makes me eligible for coaching, in which Ho’oponopono can fit.

Therefore, I have installed certain measures to maintain the integrity of the islands. And myself! I don’t call myself, or assume the role of, Kumu, but a student, Haumana, referring to mine. I only share what I’ve learned there, and not for profit. And finally, my Dad has a PhD in Ethnography, so I have been brought up with a genuine respect for other cultures, for which I’m so grateful!

At Telluselle Living Center, I aim to only have instructors, who either are Native, or direct descendants of a Hawaiian Kumu, a student of. The same applies to the other practices, ie dances, yoga and qigong, which all have to been taught to the instructor, by reference to the US, West Africa, India and China.

I simply want to own a house, where I can be the hostess to all the wonderful practices that have helped heal me, including Lomilomi. And where I can lead conversation circles and coach others towards reaching their goals.

Practising Ho’oponopono

Whatever it is that you are going through, practising forgiveness can never go wrong. In Hawaii, there is a special prayer and approach to forgiveness. At best, one meet together with one’s adversary and stay in the meeting until everything is solved and settled. Second best, is praying and working on oneself.

Start by acknowledging what has become a conflict and see if you can relate to what your accuser is saying. Have you ever felt like him or her in another situation? You probably have, thus you can practice forgiveness on that. This in turn opens up for compassion and understanding with a greater acceptance and respect to follow. Visualise ocean green light clearing the situation after this prayer, that is said with pure intention.

Divine Creator, Father, Mother, Child as One,

If I, (insert name) , or any of my family, relatives, or ancestors, have ever insulted you (insert name), your family, relatives or ancestors, now or in the past, I humbly ask for forgiveness. Let this be so and let this be light. Thank you.

Then when everything is vented and solved, we share a meal and move on.

More about the woman behind it, can be read here.