Most of us, say we want change, yet don’t do what is needed. There are various ways to look at this, and find both the motivation and the energy. First of all, the reward of changing must be greater than not, including taking action. If you’re too tired, you’re too tired and thus need rest. Then, resting is more rewarding because it feel better and is even crucial to your health. But, if you’re just feeling sluggish, you will feel better after going for a brisk walk in the forest, for example, and this feeling, is the reward of moving your body and getting fresh air. Discover what makes you feel better, is an important step.

Second, feeling frustrated or even getting into a conflict due to someone asking you to change, whether at work or privately in a relationship, can actually create the energy needed. Think of it as friction. The friction we feel when we rub our hands together, is what creates heat. And friction forces us to get out of our comfort zone and seek out action. Action that creates change.

And third, it’s natural to feel resistance. It’s scary to try something new. You might have to overcome your ego, just wanting to be in the right. Or perhaps you feel pushed into the change, by your boss or significant other. Then the best thing you can do, is to take charge by finding your own reason to change:

What can I get out of following through with this proposed change?

Will you get better paid? Become more fit? Free up time? Look better? Become seen as a hero? Grow closer and deepen a relationship? Develop a sense of being more trustworthy? Or even, finding a reason to quit altogether and not go through with someone else’s desired change, but turn it into an event you’d like to have, but with other people and elsewhere?

A lifecoach, can also help support and clarify your options. What do you need to change?

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