One way to both become more creative, and to get more clear about your goals, aspirations and the choices you want to make, to create the life you want, is by assessing what you don’t want. Often it’s hard to know exactly what we want, because we don’t think it’s possible, or we feel intimidated by our family and peers not supportive of our desires, or simply not sure if we’re just following the crowd. Then, asking yourself what you don’t want, can guide you.

Let’s say that you know you don’t want to marry a Muslim, since you don’t want to wear a veil, that you don’t want to work as a nurse, because you faint at the sight of blood, and you don’t want to live on a remote farm, due to not having a driver’s license and car. Then there are two ways to let this assessment guide you. Either, you really would like to move to a remote farm, and then you know that you need to get a driver’s license first. Or, you can now more easily define what you do want, such as you’d like to live in a city, get married to a Christian, and work in an intellectual profession. Then, you’ll also realize that you would need to start attend church, and to get an academic degree.

By ruling out what we don’t like or want, it’s easier to see what is left, that we do like and want.

To have me as your sparring partner to bounce off ideas with, give me a call, or send me an email, so we can book an appointment for your first complimentary coaching session.

(No discrimination intended.)