While I was thinking of my cousin yesterday and how we’ve spent some fun Christmases growing up, some years, I received an insight. I’ve decided to make Relationships my theme for 2024, and while contemplating this, I felt called to remember that I must resume taking the lead. I’ve most often done so, most of my life, whether it’s been creating a new subsection of our local riding club, suggesting improvements at the workplace, being president for the south county fraternity for former exchange students, or simply being the first one that enters the dancefloor on a club, it’s been me. During spring 2003, I decided to not run for becoming the president of another fraternity organization at the university, like I first thought of, but instead be the one suggesting others for the election committee. I shouldn’t have done that. I thought of it, as something that leaders also do – enabling others to take the spotlight and support them. But, I am a leader, and I should not step aside out of false humility, to not always be the one in the limelight. I can have that position.

In my relationships, I’ve done the same to feel accepted, and to not create friction, but often felt like I’ve had to compromise away my preferences and priorities. Now, that’s no good for anyone. So, I visualised, and tuned into, the feeling of taking the lead again, also in my relationships. Not necessarily always taking the initiative, but to reclaim my power and lead again. To step back into my confidence and invite others to tag along.

Looking forward to try this in 2024!